July 17

PATIENCE MONTH: DAY 17: “While you may think impatient behavior is moving you forward, it may actually be holding you back.”― Frank Sonnenberg

I love this quote…always have. It is a really good thing for me to remember. I am better every day. I can sit in traffic and allow it to be as slow as it needs to be. I am seldom late to anything today. A big difference in how I used to operate.

I have learned to have space around things in my life. Leaving plenty of time for each thing I must do. I have learned to allow extra time for travel. I love the technology we have today that can tell me what the traffic looks like on the highways and how long it will take me to go to a new place so I am sure to allow plenty of time. That is awesome and such a gift!

Google maps appears on my gratitude list quite often. Their technology gives me so much freedom in deciding how to show up on time. I seldom need to drive like a maniac and cut people off, which I confess I have done in my life…I still drive too fast.

That, too, is a product of my impatience. I am in process here, not even close to done. And my impatience is a product of my thinking. That I am entitled to being somewhere and others are just there to thwart my efforts or get in my way. They are roadblocks to my personal progress. None of that is true, but it sure is a product of my outsized Ego…ugh…you again! Yeah, forever, unfortunately.

I have played a fun game for many years. When I am in traffic with someone who is impatient like me, I watch them to see if they get farther faster than I do. Even if we pass each other, they may seem to get several miles ahead of me, but the truth is that we most likely end up at the same point at the same time, nearly every time. Like they will race ahead and then I will see them getting off the freeway as I pass that exit or they are right ahead of me at a stop light. It does no good to race around like a crazy person, as there is truly no way to get anywhere much faster than we are going to be there anyway. I have tested it quite a few times and learned this is really the case. And I am much calmer and more relaxed when I practice this way. In process…

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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