April 21

HONESTY MONTH: DAY 21: “To admit your ignorance is freeing. To say, “I don’t know” is to free yourself from having to come up with a bullshit answer.”― Eric Roxas

There are two things I had trouble with when I got here. One was to say, “I don’t know.” The other was to say, “I was wrong.” Ego was SO in control of everything. I know a lot of folks who still cannot say these two things.

Especially, “I was wrong.” I say it all the time…so much freedom. I am off the hook as soon as I say it. I seldom say, “sorry” in any way, because I spent a lot of years as an active addict saying that. It has no real value any longer. There are times when I express my regret, but I try to use other words.

As I age, I get to spend more and more time not remembering things I want to say and I get to own and honor that. It is weird, but okay. All a part of my life now.

I love the not-knowing mind I have learned to practice though. It gives me so much opportunity for a new bit of information. Sometimes I get to learn a lot more than I think I need but still enjoy the process. Learning is so important! I try to learn new words every day and new things about the world around me and my place in it. Always more to know. That makes life more interesting if you ask me. Love it!

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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