January 29

ACCEPTANCE MONTH: DAY 29: “Acceptance is simply love in practice. When you love, you accept; when you lack love, you judge.”― Abhijit Naskar

We cannot love and judge at the same time. The spiritual response of an open heart cannot close itself off on command.

The process we strive for in this lifetime is to walk through this world with an open heart. I don’t know anyone, except a few (very few) gurus who have manifested this phenomenon. It is the complete transcendence of Ego. As for me, I would love to say that I can do this, but Ego keeps me grounded with judgments about all kinds of silly things. That is what makes me human and in process.

We all are. This past year I have spent time with sponsees studying “The Four Agreements.” Some of us have dug into these books and really worked through some good stuff. I remember reading them when they first came out, sometime in 1989 or 1990. They changed my way of thinking about life, completely and totally.

Reworking these books has been a great benefit for my recovery and healing process. It is never-ending. I love the people who show up to this work with me. It has been beneficial and very interesting. The first time I re-read the main book, I was shocked to find that it had laid a solid foundation in my experience of recovery overall. That was interesting.

Digging deeper into the workbook and the 5th Agreement and a few other books by these authors, I have found more nuggets of truth to set my course by. They resonate for me.

The quote above is important for me. I cannot sit in judgment and love at the same time. I have learned to practice, practice, practice in recovery. Step 12 tells us that we do this. And I have never stopped. I want to grow…always. It is not possible to sit still. I may see it from time to time in others, but fail to see it in myself sometimes. My greatest challenge is with ME of course. True for all of us…let us walk this path of love and acceptance, shall we?

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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