ACCEPTANCE MONTH: DAY 14: “What to Accept:
The fact of mountains. The actuality
Of any stone — by kicking, if necessary.
The need to ignore stupid people,
While restraining one’s natural impulse
To murder them. The change from your dollar,
Be it no more than a penny,
For without a pretense of universal penury
There can be no honor between rich and poor.
Love, unconditionally, or until proven false.
The inevitability of cancer and/or
Heart disease. The dialogue as written,
Once you’ve taken the role. Failure,
Gracefully. Any hospitality
You’re willing to return. The air
Each city offers you to breathe.
The latest hit. Assistance.
All accidents. The end.” ― Thomas M. Disch
This is a new one for me. I love it! It brings up things I have talked to people about in my work and personal relationships. Things that others do NOT want to talk about.
We are a social environment that is reluctant to have real conversations about real life. We will talk about the news, which, in my view, is all fake and dramatized, worse than soap operas. We will talk about weather, other people, anything other than the REAL things we are thinking about and usually afraid of.
It seems to me that we have never learned how to speak up about the most important topics that are part and parcel of living. I love having these conversations. I love to feel and sit in the resistance that comes up when we confront things that most people are too “polite” (I say people-pleasing) to talk about. It tells me who people really are. Where they really live. What they are really up to.
We make up a safe dialogue that is SO full of shit…and that becomes the party line or story we tell all the time. It has been tested for safety in not revealing anything too much about ourselves. We don’t want to let others know our humanity, our real self. We are such masters at covering up what is real within us. That is scary. I have no time for those who want to stay in the safe zones. Boring as hell…jump off an emotional cliff once in a while and let something be out there that you have been holding close to your chest. It might make you more interesting or engaged in real life…safety is like a diaper…stinky and totally unreal.