January 13

ACCEPTANCE MONTH: DAY 13: “Hospitality means primarily the creation of free space where the stranger can enter and become a friend instead of an enemy. Hospitality is not to change people, but to offer them space where change can take place. It is not to bring men and women over to our side, but to offer freedom not disturbed by dividing lines.”― Henri J.M. Nouwen

This quote reminds me of how I was welcomed into the rooms of meetings where I first got into recovery. I did not want to be there, and was really in denial about my need for doing these things. I am always grateful for the resistance others show, because I know how powerfully Ego runs the world we live in.

And I am grateful that we tell our truths in meetings so others can learn about who we are and how we do this thing. A lot of folks, in or out of recovery, feel overwhelmed in today’s world by the news and what is happening around them. They are focused solely on drama and news and media. It reminds me of being a newcomer and hearing about ALL the things I had to do to stay here.

Two mottos resonate with me, now and then; Easy Does It and One Day at A Time. Both indicate that we are not to sit frozen in panic and THINK, which is part of the problem, but never part of any good solution.

We are in a very friendly world when we choose to focus on its beauty and blessings. I do that. Every day. I cannot afford the luxury of drama. It does not feed my heart or spirit. Life does. My life, just my simple path through and around the drama of a broken and dysfunctional social order. I am not here to change the world, just my view of it. That changes ME and then I can be comfortable in the space I wish to inhabit. It is peaceful and lovely where I sit. I am blessed and grateful for learning how to be in the world when Ego tells me it is ALL a problem. Haha! Take that damned Ego!

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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