July 6

PATIENCE MONTH: DAY 6: “Being certain that everything has a reason and a purpose takes away this feeling of being treated unfairly by life, it gives us the inner peace necessary to patiently persevere” ― Ali Anthony Bell

For me, the most important line in the Big Book is from Dr. Paul O. and states that “Nothing, absolutely nothing happens in God’s world by mistake…” I would change only one word in that sentence. I would change world to Universe.

The stars blow up and meteors crash, but it is, I believe in the cosmic scheme of things. I don’t know about life conditions on other planets or where other creatures exist. Truly none of my business. But I do believe that everything is perfectly in order at all times. That is a great challenge to Ego, which always wants to point out the things IT sees that are not okay.

The more I can practice that kind of acceptance, the more at peace I get to be with ALL of life. Not just MY life, which is most often the only focus of my attention, but ALL of life. The more I see this perfection, the happier I get to be. It is not my business to correct for anything. If I believe something is off-kilter, the absolute best I can do is to do my simple, very small, part to set it back into balance. Just my part.

Then I am no longer that victim, the ugliest of creatures, the angriest of creatures, the MOST immature of creatures…crying “It’s not fair…wah, wah, wah.” And I just get on with my tiny life. Doing my tiny part. Being my tiny self. I am content. That is a huge leap from where I started. Content. Isn’t that really what we are all looking for?

There is nothing missing from my contentment, except for me to let go of the things I think I need to have for that to happen. The conditions I place on my happiness and without which I insist on being miserable. When I drop THOSE, I am perfectly content. Simple, but not the way Ego wants it, so I have to remind Ego almost every day that it is all okay, no matter what the opinions are that it wants to hold. I just need to shift my focus and attention to be content. My job, my only tiny job. I love that!

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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