July 7

PATIENCE MONTH: DAY 7: “Sometimes it’s better to be kind than to be right. We do not need an intelligent mind that speaks, but a patient heart that listens. You will not be punished for your anger; you will be punished by your anger.”― gautama buddha

When others in public situations are rude, I really want to correct their behavior. It is important that I do not let them know how judgmental I really am. In today’s current culture, which is new for everyone, it is really hard not to let them know when they are not playing by the rules.

Other people are going to have impatient attitudes and behaviors. I have to remember that I am not here to teach them manners…although Ego tells me (a lot!) that I should and could! It is important that I let them teach me, thank them, and move on.

Getting all in an uproar with other people when these things happen is bad for me. I don’t react well. I don’t want to be just as rude or self-centered as the other person is being.  And yet, that is often my first instinct. I am not here to direct traffic in the world, only to stay in my own lane. Ugh!

This is one of the best and longest lessons for me. I get all superior and uppity with my own attitude. It is really kind of comical when I remember to have a sense of humor. But no  one is going to learn from what I say, only from how I act and what I do. That is the truth. And it is not my business to teach anyone anything anyway.

I have been punished by my anger for many  years. That is one purpose of all this work. To let go and let everyone live how they live. Acceptance and patience are necessary. I need them both and still get to have lots of practice….oh boy!

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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