March 15

FAITH MONTH: DAY 15: “You are where you need to be. Just take a deep breath.”― Lana Parrilla

I don’t know about you, but there were times in early recovery where people would tell me I was “exactly where you are supposed to be.” I hated that and I always looked at them with the death stare. Sometimes, I would even tell them to “f… off!”

I really needed them to buy into my story or my drama, you know that feeling of being dismissed, like my gigantic problems were of no import. Ugh! And of course they were right. It sucked to hear it; Ego really does not want to be dismissed. But it was always true. I like the addition in this quote of “Just take a deep breath.” That is a good remark, to calm people like me down.

We are always where we need to be, no matter what that looks like to our judgmental Ego, or what it feels like. We create ALL of our feelings, based on what we believe about life and how it is unfolding. It is always up to us to shift our ideas and thoughts to produce new emotions. We love to blame the world and its vagaries for our feelings, but that is not what is going on.

There is far too much emphasis placed on how we feel about things, without enough placed on WHY we create the feelings we create and what we believe about the situation.

Look around you and thank the Universal Power for everything that is in your life right now. Look deeply into what you believe about it and the judgments you place on all of it. What story are you telling about your life today? Is that the story of what is really going on? Or, is it an old story of victimization and poor little you?

See how you can reframe the story and see if you can shift those feelings into gratitude, love, joy and happiness. That is your purpose here. And the bigger the shift, the more important it is. That is how we always know that we are EXACTLY where we are supposed to be today. Woohoo!

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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