February 25

HOPE MONTH: DAY 25: “The chief beauty about time

is that you cannot waste it in advance.

The next year, the next day, the next hour are lying ready for you,

as perfect, as unspoiled,

as if you had never wasted or misapplied

a single moment in all your life.

You can turn over a new leaf every hour

if you choose.― Arnold Bennett

Most people who reach a radical turning point in their lives (recovery, going back to work after raising children, surviving cancer, getting out of a marriage, getting out of jail/prison, graduating with a new degree, etc.) work very hard to “make up for lost time.”

We believe we have lost a part of our lives in an old paradigm and need to go extra fast to “catch up” with where we believe we should have been had we not had that time elapse in that way. As if we regret the lessons and learning that come from the experience and all the time it took.

Time is a manmade construct. There is no such thing in Universal terms. A lifetime is a blink of an eye to Spirit, which goes on and on for longer than we can conceive of in our limited grasp of these things. If we are here for this lifetime, all is in perfect order. We did not waste that time; we were here to have things exactly the way they pan out. Without the experiences we took that time to have, the new day we are in right now would not work anyway.

There is really no need to ever turn over a new leaf or to redo anything unless we want it to be that way. My growth and development as a human being has been perfect for the things I came here to do. My hope is that I stop beating myself up for not being where I think I should be or could be and to just be grateful that I am no longer where I used to be.

That is all we can do. The enormity of what we need is provided in the life we came to today with. I cannot do this day without the 65 years and months prior to NOW. That is a given. Yet, I feel like I am behind or lost or have missed out on something I was supposed to get. All Ego messages. There is nothing to fix. The Universe is in perfect order and so am I. What a relief, huh?

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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