HOPE MONTH: DAY 24: “At what point do you give up – decide enough is enough? There is only one answer really. Never.”― Tabitha Suzuma
Hope is always going to be the last resort for some people. There are a lot of suicide situations that happen…almost every one of them to people with abuse in their history. They are not able to grasp the concept of the Power that can restore them to sanity. To a way of looking at life that does not condemn them.
While a lot of therapists will tell the world they were “depressed,” there is more to their story. They are stuck in a story that has no way of breaking free of the loop and they are stuck in that place that does not get out of the loop.
Most of us can identify with the hopelessness that they feel. Human experience is always going to bring us to the place of feel without hope. That is seldom going to mean that we are destined to kill ourselves. This is a function of a mind that has suffered from abuse and trauma in early life. The emotions that come up for that person are often overwhelming and they have no coping skills for those feelings.
There is no pat answer for that.
Life is a process of working through emotional unrest for all of us. We get to do that when we have the tools and the skills that we are responsible for asking for help in finding. This can be more than some folks are capable of at the time.
So, sometimes people DO give up, and give in to a despair that few of us will ever experience. It is a truly dark and terrifying place. However, most of us have hope. Let us always remain in a state of gratitude for the dark times and how we find our ways out. For me, it is always the process of working with steps and getting out of my own head and my own way.
I have a dark pair of glasses. Twelve Steps teach me to look with a lighter pair of glasses at life, to shift my perspective from that self-centered view to one of broader spectrums where I can see the rest of life, not just looking through my tiny window. It works very well, no matter what dark story I have created in my mind. I love that!