ACCEPTANCE MONTH: DAY 17: “Sometimes people let the same problem make them miserable for years when they could just say, So what. That’s one of my favorite things to say. So what.”― Andy Warhol
SO WHAT? This is a free-ing thing to say…we take ourselves so seriously sometimes and are ready to kill ourselves and others over the most trivial things imaginable! Really!
Think about the last time you got really angry at someone. What was the thinking around that? What did you tell yourself about who they were and what they had done to you? There is an entire story around this crap…and WE make it all up…
I love that! And it is terribly funny when we can look at it from a perspective of SO WHAT? A very empowering phrase is you ask me. There were a series of books in the 90s or early 2000s that were titled, “Don’t Sweat the Little Stuff” and “It’s All Little Stuff.”
Ego gets caught in a great deal of minutia and trivial aspects of life. When others do not jump into that space with us, we get all riled up, like it really matters.
Life is much better lived in the box of So What? We can let go of shit that truly, truly, truly does not matter. I am a very detail-oriented person. Very analytical about too many things. This has been such a freeing thing for me to practice.
I find that others are less integral than am I. If I say I am going to do something in a certain way at a certain time, I do it. Others are often way less inclined to do what they say. Most of the time, they are otherwise occupied in their own story. They do not follow through the way they say they will. I can let this be a problem for me, or I can let it go and quit believing those who tell what they believe are white lies or small untruths. I just accept that they are not as honest as they could be and let that be.
This happens in the workplace, with friends and with family. I just do not rely on them to do what they say they will. That is not an indictment, like it once was. It is just the way it is. Acceptance. What a tremendous gift it is to just accept and say, “So what?”