January 16

ACCEPTANCE MONTH: DAY 16: “You are what your creators and experiences have made you, like every other being in this universe. Accept that and be done; I tire of your whining.”― N.K. Jemisin

I used to have this quote hanging over my desk in my office, so clients could read it. It keeps the victim BS down to a minimum. Although every “victim” is assured that their story truly is about being a victim. It never is, never was, never will be.

We have to grow the hell up and accept that we are here to have these specific experiences and quit crying and whining “Why ME?” all the time. It interrupts our process  of acceptance and moving into a space where we get spiritually fit.

Let go of the stories, for goodness sake! They serve nothing. We are here because we are going to do some shit and then get over it. Period.

Life is just that, a series of experiences that teach us how to grow into adult humans who can learn to love and accept life just the way it comes. With messy experiences, illnesses, death and all the pretty little crap in-between.

We certainly don’t scream at the sky when we are given things we like. Just when we are opposed to something that comes up in our day-to-day experience that we don’t like. Our resistance is the source of the pain we feel around these things. Our contraction of heart and mind around this stuff is very painful, indeed, when we believe it should be somehow different. And it kicks our asses. Every time. It is here to do exactly that, so we can grow and expand our sense of openness to life itself, in all its unseemly forms. I am not a fan of some of it either.

I just know, in the bottom of the depths of my heart, that ALL OF IT is what is happening, in perfect accordance with Universal Power and there is nothing my FEELINGS, opinions or desires are going to do to change any of it. Amen. Forever.

The more I can do this, the greater the peace I get to live in. The greater my heart can open to the rest of the stuff that makes up life. I am not blocking it all, but letting go of opinions, feelings, beliefs, old ideas, and ALL of it. Amen. Maybe not forever, but at least for today. Thank you, thank you, thank you!

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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