January 3

ACCEPTANCE MONTH: DAY 3: “Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them; that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.”― Lao Tzu

When we learn to accept life and its continuous, ongoing changes and shifts without resistance, we will have peace and serenity. Period.

That is the way it works. Those commodities do not come any other way. Resistance is the cause of all suffering and pain…ALL suffering and pain. So, I accept things more and more every day. I find more peace and happiness in this fashion.

I allow others to be who they are, with whatever beliefs they need to have. It is good to question them from time to time. However, my process is my process. Your process will be different. I will not cosign others’ erroneous beliefs. I will question them at every turn.

But I am not here to redirect the course of anyone’s life. We cannot see until we can see. We cannot know until we can know. We cannot understand until we do.

That is why we are here. To learn what lessons we get to learn and then move on. We are blessed to be able to work through these 12 steps, because they will give us the foundation for a more spiritually-based life. However, most people will still live in Ego and find no peace or happiness. Without a drug or drink. Sometimes.

Or not.

The flow of life goes on, no matter how much pain we may experience in that flow. It does nothing to stop Life from flowing in ‘a series of natural and spontaneous changes.’ We are the ones who get to decide how we live with that.

Step 1 gave me what I needed to do. Accept my addiction and admit my personal powerlessness. It is not only about drugs and alcohol. I am powerless…period!!!

Over everything…every single thing in this Universe has its own journey. Time, oceans, mountains, animals, people, all of life. I may believe I have some power when I try to control and manipulate outcomes with my personal interventions, but I do not. Life will go on, no matter what.

This is a beautiful thing! I can stop working to control and manipulate life and just allow it to be amazing, beautiful, spontaneous, magical, wonderful and I am the one who gets to enjoy it all when I let it be itself. What a gift!

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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