December 22

LOVE MONTH: DAY 22: “It takes courage to love, but pain through love is the purifying fire which those who love generously know. We all know people who are so much afraid of pain that they shut themselves up like clams in a shell and, giving out nothing, receive nothing and therefore shrink until life is a mere living death.”― Eleanor Roosevelt

Fear/Ego creates the dynamic conversation with Self that tells us we are different, apart from, detached from, disconnected and alone. This is never true. There is nothing that can separate us from each other, except the delusion that we are separate.

We are all connected to Life. To Energy. To the Power that created us and lives in every single thing that was ever created. We are dynamic and alive, never detached or separate from other living entities. We try to separate ourselves and see the differences in so many ways. Only in our minds is this real. It does not and cannot truly exist, as long as we live…which is forever.

Energy cannot be destroyed, and we have REALLY tried to destroy it! Even nuclear fission shifts energy, but does not destroy it. Just shifts it in form and displaces it from one place to another. That is the nature of how powerful our creation is. THAT powerful! So how silly is it of us to feel lonely or to buy into that story of being all alone in the world and so terribly different. How arrogant and self-serving Ego is! And how terribly destructive and mean!

Wow! The antithesis of Spirit is not Evil or Satan, but Ego. The antithesis of Love is Fear/Ego. The antithesis of Life is not death, but Ego. A story to tell made of all lies, and we are fully into believing the BS cooked up by Ego. Sad, no? I believe it is the heartbreak of the heart. That we believe in those lies and live an entire life based on the idea of separation and alone-ness and difference.

I can come up with 5000 things I have in common with a great white shark, and yet I see only the differences between us. Why do I focus on that? Ego. Why would I not spend my time contemplating the beauty of others with whom I share so many, many things? Ego. Why would I spend so much of my life feeling and believing I am all alone in this world? Ego. Why on Earth would I believe that the Energy of those whom I have loved and who are now in another realm is gone from me? Ego.

See what I mean? So, this quote, talking about the Courage of love means how much work it takes to build a new paradigm, based on Truth rather than Ego. How do I know? I have done this, at least enough to envision the lies and deceit and know the Truth. I may not always have access to the realm where I can live it every day, but that is closer to my life than it was even this morning. We all are here to walk that path. And we all know that living death of listening to and believing Ego. It truly is a special kind of front row seat in Hell.

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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