September 22

FREEDOM MONTH: DAY 22: “The only real battle in life is between hanging on and letting go.” ― Shannon L. Alder

This is true of old ideas, ancient resentments, denial about all of it, addiction, people who don’t truly feed our spirit, jobs, homes, money, life.

So many people claim that change is painful, and growth is hard. Terrible lies! Pain only happens when we resist the change that has already taken place. It is like clinging to a rock in a river and getting beaten up by the rapids instead of letting go and floating off with the current. That is what people do when they get caught in a riptide in the ocean. They drown rather than relax. They continue to fight when it is killing them.

We cling to the deadliest of our old ideas. And they cause grievous harm in every area of our lives. Especially our codependent ideas about relationships. Ugh!

And nothing, absolutely nothing about life is hard. When we tell ourselves something is hard, it is a total lie. Nothing is hard. It is different, it is new, it is uncomfortable because it is new and different. And it is completely unfamiliar because we have never been here before. Well, duh! Of course not. Life is not like “Groundhog Day.” We are not here to do what is comfortable, familiar or the same. Life is moving like that river, really fast, spinning in the energetic whirl of the helix that is the substance of ALL LIFE! ALL LIFE! We are part of all of that.

So we have to move and bend and flow in new ways. Let go and move into that change. Let go and move into new situations with new people and new ideas and new ways of doing things. And most people will break their bodies in horrible ways with their resistance.

What? Yeah, back issues are always signs of resistance and staying stuck. All stress, and stress-related injuries and illness…you got it! So that means heart disease, obesity, strokes, cancers, diabetes, etc. All caused by old ideas and being stuck there. Rigid and resistant. Of course we break. We cannot do what Nature (Universe) created us to do…adapt and grow and shift and move.

So is the battle. So is the struggle. And you can blame it on whatever you want, but, as always, the problem is INSIDE us…how we believe and what we believe about life itself. Nothing else.

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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