September 23

FREEDOM MONTH: DAY 23: “Shapeshifting requires the ability to transcend your attachments, in particular your ego attachments to identity and who you are. If you can get over your attachment to labeling yourself and your cherishing of your identity, you can be virtually anybody.” ― Zeena Schreck

From the moment we gain some form of consciousness, we are labelled and labelling ourselves with ideas of who we are. None of these labels will ever remain static in the Universe of whirling energy and thought forms.

Sadly, we learn to cling, fearfully to some identity or idea of ourselves that is not real. Others also cling to their ideas of us and refuse to let go.

And we seldom EVER explore the labels we have for ourselves. What does it mean to be a daughter, a sister, a brother, a cousin, a student, a teacher, a husband, a friend, a lover, an employee or boss, a wife or mother? What do our various roles in life mean to us, personally?

Learning to identify with these labels is ridiculous when we all have different interpretations of what they mean. I can tell you, for sure, that my idea of what a sister is COMPLETELY differs from the way my sister sees it. COMPLETELY.

When we learn to define, for ourselves, the roles we carry around and use, we begin to see how arbitrary social rules governing these things can be. We begin to let go of these labels and move into our own concepts and ideas of who we are becoming, where we have been and what we have been, along with who we WANT to be and become.

We cannot allow ourselves to be identified with these things on the outer levels of life, or by others. We get to self-identify with that part of us NO ONE else can know…our souls, our spirits, our hearts. While others judge and label us by outer appearances, there is no way this is who we are. It is only the casing that we carry to house our hearts and souls and spirits.

Let us all begin to live from THAT place, not the identity of the Ego, that has to put everyone and everything into a tidy cubbyhole so we can manage and control it all. And WE are the definers of our own lives.

If I tell you I am a great friend, this will not resonate with you if you believe that means I will stand by and co-sign your bullshit or your delusions. If you believe it means I will let you lie and deceive me, you will be anything other than my friend. I do not tolerate that shit in my inner circle. I may tolerate you in settings where we must interface, but that will be the extent of it. You are not my friend you are an acquaintance.

I have learned, in finding out what I mean when I say “friend” what I am willing to allow and not allow in my heart space. It is a lovely space, but allows no crap. I can love you as a human being and child of the Universal Power, but you are not coming into my world beyond the boundary of that.

I no longer call myself by the titles I have been given over the years. And I do not really concern myself with what titles others may want to give me. They do not mean much to me. They are created by those who do not really get it anyway. THAT, my friends, is the greatest freedom anyone can ever know!

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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