August 18

COURAGE MONTH: DAY 18: “It takes a lot of courage to release the familiar and seemingly secure, to embrace the new. But there is no real security in what is no longer meaningful.” ― Alan Cohen

We all have sat inside a relationship that was at a dead end, or a job, or some other type of lifestyle that was not feeding the person we wanted to move into becoming.

Life is ALL about change. This means that we either expand our relationships with others, deepening them and growing them, or we move on to new ones. There is nothing wrong with this. It is our sick culture that tells us we are supposed to stay in things forever.

We can work to grow in relationships where we want to stay. But, if both of us are not willing to grow in the same direction, it will be unsatisfactory and unfulfilling for both. There is a lot of this in our culture. I cannot do it, myself. If I am not deeply fed and feeding someone in a relationship, I just move on. It means I have very few long-term relationships, but that has been my life for a very long time. It was the way I was born, raised and continue to live.

I have known quite a few people for many years. They just are not part of my spiritual inner group. They can be acquaintances, but not that close. It is okay with me. I understand the nature of who I am and what feeds my spirit.

Many people (I should probably say most, since that is my experience) are afraid of being alone; and therefor, hang on to dissatisfying relationships way past their expiration date. They do not understand how to feed themselves and their spirits. I am very comfortable with my own company. There is little I won’t do on my own. Usually things that are not that important to me anyway.

Some of my deepest relationships are with people who are very different from me. Others are on the same path. But we have the time to invest in depth. I am not good at surface or shallow relationships. I find them boring and a waste of time.

I don’t spend much of my time discussing weather or books or movies or those social niceties. I do this with those I have similar interests with.

I guess I have that kind of courage. I love to move into new homes, meet new people (one-on-one), and discover new towns and cities. I love to drive on new roads and do new things. Always on the lookout for new adventures. Always. Sitting still is my challenge. How about you? Does your life feel vital and alive, or are you trying to force square pegs into round holes and feeling like you need a shift? Your call, your job, your responsibility to shift. Life does that all the time. We have to move with it to stay vital and in the flow of LIFE!

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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