July 7

PATIENCE MONTH: DAY 7: “It’s never easy to wait, especially when we’re longing for something with all our heart. If we look around and see no sign of god acting to resolve a situation, we may be tempted to come up with our own ideas to hurry the solution along. Our impatience may lead us to make choices that don’t line up with God’s will. We can find ourselves regretting the long-range consequences of an idea that seemed convenient and logical at the time.

God asks us to prove our trust in him by surrendering to his plan and waiting for him to work in ways that he considers best. We may find it hard to wait patiently when nothing seems to be happening but taking matters into our own hands apart from God’s leading is always a terrible mistake.” ― Dianne Neal Matthews

Yes! I have done life both ways, in and out of recovery. And here is why we get so impatient: Ego exists to do one thing, and one thing only…resolve problems. BUT, it only has the past to draw from. So, if we have a problem (seemingly) today, ego (Screaming Purple Monkeys) tell us that the answer is…something from the past. Uhoh!

Today’s problems are never going to be resolved using yesterday’s solutions. So, it really helps to make sure the problems are really problems. Usually, they are not. If they are, only the Universal Power can create something new to resolve the new situations. 99% of what the ego (SPM) believes to be problems are NOT.

So, if there IS a problem, let it go. If there is NOT a problem, let it go. I wrote about the coordination of all the things that are necessary for me to complete my move. Okay. So, I let go of what felt like problems. The home will be fixed in a timely manner when I am living there and can hire people to do the work that needs to be done on days that work for me. Okay! I get to do it like that. And I will find those people in exactly the right way at the right time. Nothing else is necessary.

What IS necessary is for me to focus on what I can do with what needs to be moved. And to do that with as much energy as I can find inside myself. I have some amazing people who have stepped in to help me with those things and the rest will resolve itself just as beautifully. Hooray!

Now, don’t we all have some area(s) of our lives where we can practice this kind of waiting to see how it all unfolds? I think so too! It took 9 months before I found the place I wanted to live next. I bid on homes to buy, looked at I don’t know how many to lease or rent, and finally found not just the best space I could find, but in the perfect place and with the greatest possible people to work with throughout. It is all such a gift. And I don’t need to push or pull anything, I just need to keep busy with other things while the Power does the job that needs to be done. Yay!

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

Leave a comment

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s