July 2

PATIENCE MONTH: DAY 2: “When the wait is long, it is usually worth waiting for.” ― Tapan Ghosh

My life has been a “waiting for” period over the last 4-5 years. An incredible experience of loss and seeming failure and waiting. I could not do this well. I just did it.

What has come to be is flavored by the long wait. There is a richness  and value that would not otherwise be present. As humans, especially us addicts, we value nothing that comes with no price. We MUST be invested in what we get, or we place no value on it. Please don’t get me wrong. If you are thinking of giving me a Ferrari, I will accept the gift!

But humans are built with an idea that value is dearer for the time and effort we exert in achieving a goal or anything we get.

When there is no cost to us, we place no value on the thing or goal we have achieved. We must have a sense of accomplishment and ownership that comes with having worked for what we have. HOWEVER, we are also the same people who cry for life to hand us all the goodies, without doing a damned thing to earn them.

This kind of entitlement is what impatience is all about. It is YOUR job to take care of me and all my needs. I won’t get off my chair if I don’t have to. Then I will tell you all about my hard work and how I did it.

The more I have invested in the miraculous life I have today, the greater the rewards are appreciated and loved. None of us are likely to take care of those things we have not invested ourselves in. There is nothing like a reverse in circumstances to allow us to appreciate the money we once took for granted. This is true for all of us humans. We are not thankful for most of the things we have until they are gone, and then we cry.

Patience is the act of doing the footwork and waiting for the results. We don’t always wait well, but we wait. As a gardener, I am always mindful of my new blackberry bushes. If I pick the fruit too soon, it is bitter. Same as tomatoes or anything else in my garden. If picked before the time is right, it is no good. If I wait for things to ripen, they are wonderful and delicious because I tended them and watered them and had a stake in them appearing on my dinner plate. Life is good when I sit still and wait!

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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