January 1

ACCEPTANCE MONTH: DAY 1: “If you are irritated by every rub, how will your mirror be polished??” ― Jalaluddin Mevlana Rumi

Yes! And with two question marks. We are so “sensitive” as the BB states; I call it self-centered and immature. We truly believe that everything is about us.

Even when it is, it is a good time to take stock of what is going on with you. If we are being presented with information we don’t like, we can look at the information to see 1 or 2 things. The first thing is the source of the information. If it is from a person we trust, then we get to see it as a gift, even when we are not all that fond of the wrapping or delivery of the gift.

OR…if it comes from someone we either don’t know or don’t care for, they are giving us a gift, even when we are not all that fond of the wrapping or the delivery of the gift.

I tend to be forthright and blunt. This does not always endear me to others with whom I work, but they cannot deny my intended message. I don’t have time to feather your nest and make truth palatable. I find that most addicts will be inclined to deny or ignore the message if I give them a bunch of fluffy sentiment with it.

I love the Four Agreements. That book tells us that one of the most important things we need to do is NOT take life personally. It ain’t about US! Deep and loving truth here. And without sand paper, we all have too many rough edges.

I find that rough edges make me tough to get along with. I am okay with those who do not care for my truth-telling. I do not share what I think, only what I see and observe in others. I don’t need to give my opinions, just my observations about behavior and attitude.

I want to be a shiny mirror. I want to learn to sit with the truth of what it is about me that is causing me trouble in the world around me. If I can change it, it will only happen after I accept it. The truth will always, always, always, set me free. I MUST learn to accept life; all of life, without judgment, without labels, without fear or resistance.

Fear and resistance are the things that create pain for me. Whatever I resist will persist until I allow it to come into my home and sit on my shoulder and teach me what I most need to know. This is such a great and lovely truth about the Universe that I inhabit.

So, if you rub me, I will most often see why it upsets me, if it does. Many times, I will let it be the polish that my shiny self can reflect to you and the rest of the world. Shiny…I love shiny people!

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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