December 26

LOVE MONTH: DAY 26: “If you truly loved yourself, you could never hurt another.” – Buddha

This journey we are on, is to find that place inside of us where our spirit lives. When we can find and sit in that place, we get glimpses, however fleeting, of understanding that we are connected to all of it. All of life, all of the Universe, all energy.

Then we become connected to whatever we do in that Universe. If my understanding of this is accurate and not ego-based, I will live with full love of a snail (Not a fan!) or a potato bug (Even more yuk!) or a hummingbird (smile!) or a dolphin. In living in full love of these things, I let them do what they do and allow them to do it.

My ego-based thinking is trying to eliminate things from my experience because they impede my life in some way. Potato bugs are truly gruesome creatures, as are slimy snails. Both of them exist in the world, although I am not sure why. But, I need to understand that my love is to extend to them.

True story, an early insight moment that I had was when I allowed that, as Christian theology as taught us, the Beloved Son of God sits at the right hand of the Father. Stay with me here. I remember thinking that, if I had received absolute Grace and forgiveness from God (Still the Christian concept here!); that the Being sitting on the Left hand had to be either Lucifer or Hitler. And I GOT IT in that moment. I GOT IT that there is no level of good or bad, right or wrong, that exists. There is ONLY LOVE!

Okay. That is a huge stretch for most people. We use certain barometers of behavior as being the worst or the best and then measure our lives against those barometers. Our egos are so huge that many of us cannot forgive our own stuff, based on the judgments we hand down.

When I work with new folks around here, the biggest challenge is to find themselves “worthy” of this work. They are so f——ing arrogant that they believe they are too “BAD” to let themselves be on a spiritual path. WTF????

So, if you think a cockroach and a swan can be equally loved in this Universe, what the hell are you here for? To receive and accept that we are HUMAN. To be human is to be frail, puckered, bent, broken, make HUGE mistakes to learn to do better, fart, cry, have 1000 different emotions every day, age, fall down, get up, and there is nothing about that the Universe doesn’t love. See?

We are so arrogant we think we have to be “Good” for that love to come. That love is what we are made of and in and by. There is nothing else! It is like trying to dry off while you are 100 feet deep in the ocean. Just as we are surrounded by air and a giant Universe, it is ALL LOVE. There is nothing else. Except in the Ego-based thinking we are doing. I love this stuff! It is so wonderful to recognize and live inside. I just grabbed a big handful of love! It was right there, just above the keyboard as I typed. I put it into my mouth and pretended to chew and swallow it. Now I know I am full of love.

And then a whole bunch more just jumped in my ear and swam into my brain. Woohoo! There it goes, I knew you would love that!

So, stop harming yourself, this love thing has no exceptions, no rules, no musts, no shoulds, no regrets, no worthiness to gain, it just IS.

And, unlike the rest of this Universe, it cannot be tainted or poisoned, except in our minds. Change your mind, wash it with love. It is a great thing!

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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