September 6

FREEDOM MONTH: DAY 6: “The unhappiest people in this world, are those who care the most about what other people think.”― C. JoyBell C.

And so it is. When I am in People-pleasing mode, I am deeply in trouble. I have learned fairly well to just live my life, be happy, and let others believe what they want about all of it.

I don’t get caught (very often) in what others say or think, because that gives me a whole set of steps I will have to work through to free myself again from the mental prison of what they think or say. It truly is none of my business.

Steps 4 through 9, repeatedly, give me freedom. I walk away from the drama and codependence of being stuck in other people’s hamster wheel of pretense, dishonesty, back-biting, etc. And I no longer carry the burden of being someone I am not to make others seemingly happy. It never works anyway.

That dance has no end.

If I do something to make you happy once; which does not really make you happy anyway, that is an inside job which only belongs to you; your demands will always escalate. Pretty soon, I am pissed off and I am your puppet. Ugh! What an ugly life that is.

So, I walk my talk and I do what I say I will do, despite how you may feel about it. I find that Acceptance is the thing that will keep me free at all times. I accept that you don’t like me or something about me and let it go. I mean REALLY let it go. And I walk freely and happily down my own path and leave you to yours. So much less baggage to carry along.

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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