FREEDOM MONTH: DAY 6: “The unhappiest people in this world, are those who care the most about what other people think.”― C. JoyBell C.
And so it is. When I am in People-pleasing mode, I am deeply in trouble. I have learned fairly well to just live my life, be happy, and let others believe what they want about all of it.
I don’t get caught (very often) in what others say or think, because that gives me a whole set of steps I will have to work through to free myself again from the mental prison of what they think or say. It truly is none of my business.
Steps 4 through 9, repeatedly, give me freedom. I walk away from the drama and codependence of being stuck in other people’s hamster wheel of pretense, dishonesty, back-biting, etc. And I no longer carry the burden of being someone I am not to make others seemingly happy. It never works anyway.
That dance has no end.
If I do something to make you happy once; which does not really make you happy anyway, that is an inside job which only belongs to you; your demands will always escalate. Pretty soon, I am pissed off and I am your puppet. Ugh! What an ugly life that is.
So, I walk my talk and I do what I say I will do, despite how you may feel about it. I find that Acceptance is the thing that will keep me free at all times. I accept that you don’t like me or something about me and let it go. I mean REALLY let it go. And I walk freely and happily down my own path and leave you to yours. So much less baggage to carry along.