June 2

HUMILITY MONTH: DAY 2: “It takes confident humility to admit that we’re a work in progress. It shows that we care more about improving ourselves than proving ourselves.”― Adam Grant

I have spent so many years of my life being defensive. Ego defenses were the only skill set I had until I got to you guys. They were not put down on my first day either.

Whenever I feel myself coming up with defenses for my actions, I have to stop and breathe for a minute and then let go of whatever I was going to say. I don’t  always catch it, but the growth so far is great. I don’t want to live in defense any longer. It is miserable and so terribly dysfunctional.

I have an old  magnet from the 1980s on my refrigerator. It is from an artist I loved during those years. It has a girl with red hair (some of you remember when I did too!) and she is standing with her hands on her hips in my favorite “bossy” pose and says, “Let’s put the FUN back in dysfunctional.” I love it…SO inappropriate, but necessary.

We must learn to laugh at this stuff so we can balance our Ego shit with humility. Laughter is the humble recognition that we are all just here…”walking each other home”…as Ram Dass said. And nothing is a big deal, unless we stay stuck in our shit and continue to live in the shit instead of letting it all go. Just letting it all go…and there is nothing to prove anyway. Nothing…I love that, too!

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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