May 2

INTEGRITY MONTH: DAY 2: “The price of doing what’s right is not always based on results. If you don’t get the result you want. It’s not because you made a bad decision, it’s just the cost of doing what’s right”― Janna Cachola

This quote is phrased in an awkward way, but the point is still there. We all have agendas when we do things. We tell ourselves we are helping others, but most often it is so we look good to others, or even ourselves.

I disagree about doing what is right. It ALWAYS pays off. Always. What do I mean by that? We ALWAYS know that we did the best we could. If we act only for outcomes and results that we believe are in place before we take action, right or wrong, then we are completely missing the point.

Doing what is right has no foreseeable outcome anyway. The ONLY result is that we are free from second-guessing and regret.

If I find something valuable and return it, or even just turn it in to the police, I have the result that I did the right thing. If I only did it expecting a reward or financial gain, or even to look like a better person, I have still done the right thing, even when those outcomes are not present.

There is NO REWARD, except the inner knowing that I acted in good faith and according to a higher voice than the one in me that demands recognition, praise, or some other Ego-based consideration. Then it is not the right thing at all. Just another manipulative move on my part, and I will never be right with that.

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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