HONESTY MONTH: DAY 18: “The need to prove who you are will vanish once you know who you are.”― Danielle Pierre
As we perform these inventories, we grow in understanding who we are. Those who do not understand themselves are likely to maintain defense mechanisms that are immature and inappropriate ways of being in relationship to others, along with boundary issues and those coping skills that are not healthy as adults.
This is the greatest part of recovery. Not abstinence, but the way we learn to become interactive with others and maintain a sense of autonomy as well as knowing how to join into relationship with others that do not replicate our dysfunctional relationships prior to recovery.
Addiction is always going to foster itself in those relationships that were codependent and dysfunctional. We cannot develop addiction with healthy boundaries and ways of interacting in the world. It is not necessary, nor will it happen. This is why so many return to active addiction. Relapse is the byproduct of not working through these things and participating in active, ongoing, escalating levels of recovery. So much more is needed than abstinence. And it shows when others do not have it.
And there was never anything to prove anyway. That is just what Ego does as it tells you that you are inferior and less than…insecurity needs to prove something. Spiritual fitness does not.