April 8

HONESTY MONTH: DAY 8: “You’re only responsible for being honest, not for someone else’s reaction to your honesty.”― Kelli Jae Baeli

We are here to recover. We are here to look at our own side of the street, not that of others. If I am completely honest with my own stuff, it should not be necessary for me to tell others my truth. If there is something I must communicate with another person, I do my best to be neutral in my tone.

That is not always possible if I have some story around the exchange. Or if I am projecting onto the other person something from my past. I see this happen a lot.

That is the purpose of “thorough and honest” inventory. To become clear on where our personal and emotional landmines exist. When we know about our own shit, we can navigate relationships without taking other people’s behaviors or attitudes personally. That is a crucial part of this process and the primary purpose behind Step 4.

Not everyone is going to be responsive to what I have to say or do in this world. Given. Accepted. Not everyone is going to like me, and that, too must be accepted. Just as I am not going to like some aspects of other people’s behavior and attitude. I do not need to assassinate them around that.

And my past has led me to see where this is how I go at times. I have to temper my responses and reactions. I get to see into this mirror on a regular basis with others in my experience. They teach me, again and again, how to be who I truly am in my heart and put THAT out into the world. Great learning experience for all of us!

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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