January 16

ACCEPTANCE MONTH: DAY 16: “Water flows because it’s willing.”― Marty Rubin

This is like a Zen koan…there are a few that I am fond of. Learning to flow with life is the key to happiness and success.

When we are battling everything, fighting life as it comes, we become so weary, angry, resentful, and have no peace in our lives or our hearts. This is sad, but the choices are made by us. Most folks feel as if they are victims of life…all the time. That is never true.

We are only victims of seeing things as we see them. One of my favorite buttons on my crazy bulletin board over my desk says, “Life’s a bitch and then  you change your attitude.” I used to love the old slogan, “Life’s a bitch and then you die” in my using and drinking days. I found the button on my bulletin board in a recovery store when I was newly into this thing. Been with me a long time. I always resonated with seeing life through the lens that Chuck C. called a “new pair of glasses.”

There is no illness, no harm, no life event, nothing that is not a gift for me. Anything and everything in my life is a gift. It took me a bit to come to this, because I did not see the benefits and my way of seeing was so broken. Life is filled with amazing things…most of them not immediately choice to me. Today I just let it flow. I am willing. Always hope to be willing.

And there have been a few things I balked at…trust me. But it meant that I got to be present to the moments as they were. Not stuck in my story about poor little Kelly and how hard life is for her…that is SO toxic! I KNOW with no question that I am God’s favorite kid, receiving amazing grace every day and life is filled with one adventure after another, not just for me, but everyone…all we have to do is change our perception…it is too simple. Learn to flow.

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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