ACCEPTANCE MONTH: DAY 11: “If there was one message I could be known for in the years and centuries after I’m gone, one message for which I’m remembered, if I am remembered at all, it would be the urgent bulletin I’m delivering right here and now: where you are now and what you are now—at this precise moment—is absolutely, one hundred percent okay… and accepting yourself right now for who and what and where you are is not only your best bet; it’s your only bet.”― Michael Vito Tosto
What a great message to remind us that we are always right where we are supposed to be. I remember people saying that to me in meetings and I thought, “How the hell do you know?” Now I get it.
If nothing happens in God’s world by mistake, and I really believe this to be true, then acceptance IS the answer to all my problems. And I must work to accept not only life or you or events, but ME as well. That is sometimes more work than the other stuff. It all seems to take turns.
Even those of us who see the changes we wish to make in ourselves must accept where we are in that process. Which means where we are today IS perfect, or we would be somewhere and something else. Period.
The problem with so many of us is that desire and ability to pretend we are other than we are. We work so hard at being something we are not, and that is just a brutal way of beating ourselves up all the time. We deny our ways of being and stay stuck in shit that does us no good at all. Seeing ourselves with a clear eye takes a long time to get to. And I, for one, must have input from others. That is what my friends and sponsor are for. They give me feedback when I am in denial or pretending to be something other than my most authentic self. I need that help. I am a past master of lying to me. We all are.
This is the first step in recovery. To be honestly where and who we are today. Only then can we move on.