January 2

ACCEPTANCE MONTH: DAY 2: “Expectation has brought me disappointment. Disappointment has brought me wisdom. Acceptance, gratitude and appreciation have brought me joy and fulfilment.”― Rasheed Ogunlaru

I love this quote. At first read, I thought it summed up life rather well. Except for one thing, and I believe it must apply to a lot of people, since we have a whole set of steps around this.

That “expectation has brought me disappointment”, which then leads to wisdom. Not for addicts, and I believe this applies greatly in our culture. When we get disappointed, we get angry and resentful. We kill and maim each other around disappointment. Not a straight line for us to wisdom, is it?

The steps can take us there, but it is a long road for those who want to just stop using and drinking, because they never get to gratitude, acceptance, and appreciation, nor do they become wise. They are bitter and resentful in my experience of them.

The author of this quote has a much more mature view of life than most of the people I see. I have always believed that it is really easy to see how mature a person is by how they handle disappointment. It is certainly a sign of spiritual wellness or lack thereof.

What we learn to just accept is going to be based on how healthy we are mentally and emotionally. It is easy to see in this current cultural environment how unhealthy the world has become. And yet, there are days when I see the most beautiful things happening, perhaps because I look for them. And we all know that what we focus on is what grows in our experience. Isn’t that nice?

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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