December 21

LOVE MONTH: DAY 21: “I guess that’s just part of loving people: You have to give things up. Sometimes you even have to give them up.”― Lauren Oliver

I would change one word here…instead of “sometimes”, it should be always. We cannot hold onto anyone or anything we love. The magic of love in any situation is its changing face.

I love life. My life looks so entirely different from one day to the next. I cannot even describe what it looked like 1 year ago, 10 years ago, 20 years ago, etc. No resemblance to today.

I was in love with those lives too. They were absolutely essential for the life I have today. It all had to be exactly the way it was for this to be the way it is. There is no point whatsoever in regretting my past lives or wishing for any of it to be different than it is right now. Not possible.

We are always evolving and transforming and the Universe, every particle of it is changing so fast I cannot see it. Nor can you. Try to hold onto a bit of air and see how that goes. That is the same thing as trying to hold onto love.

It is something we bring to the day, to the moment, to the life we are living. It cannot be held just as loving others means we must always let them go. They are, just as we will, going to die. It is not a downer, but a reality that MUST be accepted or we will always be discontent with life. Trees and flowers and animals and people, even mountains and oceans are moving and changing every second of their lives. As are we.

Love is fluid and moves with the changing tides of life. It flows and ebbs through us. We are the expression of love and created to walk in this world with that expression. We get all caught in Ego and think we can claim another person or a thing that does not belong to us. Life will always get the last laugh…we cannot take any of it with us. It was never ours anyway. That is the greatest secret of the cosmos…let it all go…you will have more love than ever before…isn’t that nice?

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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