October 21

DISCIPLINE MONTH: DAY 21: “I trust those with discipline much more than I trust those with motivation to get the job done. Motivation often times shows an expiration date. Those with true discipline have the endurance, the dedication and the problem solving skills to make things happen.”― Loren Weisman

I have had this experience a lot. Because I have such high energy and enthusiasm, people will often join me in a new idea or adventure…at first. They lose interest or energy and quit, which leaves me with the completion of a lot of tasks and projects.

I am a “get ‘er done” kind of person. I will finish what I start because I cannot stand to have incomplete projects. I get very frustrated with those who do only a part of anything. I had to learn to sit with incompletion with my husband, because he liked to have lots of projects going all at once. It really bugged me. We had some challenges like this. Thankfully, we were both working the steps and living this stuff in our lives, so we made it work.

I did not have to change, neither did he. We accepted these things about each other. That happens in relationships. We all get to decide what is and what is not acceptable to us as we go into relationship with someone. There are some things that, for me, are make-it-or-break-it. This was not one of them. I had a lot of projects to complete when he died, but I was very grateful for the things we did together for the time we had. It is such a gift. And it taught me to work toward common solutions in new ways, which is always a great gift.

Discipline is an important thing to understand about ourselves. How we are disciplined and how we are not. There are a lot of people who are way more relaxed around doing things and completion. I am not one of them. I would prefer to be with people like myself, because I enjoy working on projects more with those who are into the idea of completing them in a fairly consistent and rapid fashion. We all get to learn about ourselves in this life thing. I love that!

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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