October 12

DISCIPLINE MONTH: DAY 12: “Go forward even if you’re tired; go forward even if you don’t feel like it and you don’t feel motivated. Doing a little bit is better than doing nothing. Success is not one large step; it’s small daily steps towards reaching the goal.”― Jeanette Coron

I might need to tattoo this on me somewhere so I can read it all the time. I am more motivated than most folks, yet need to be prodded or pushed from time to time. We all have that gene, I believe it is part of addiction, that tells us to quit, just before we succeed.

I have never met people quite so good at this as addicts. The BB talks about how well we can work like dogs to achieve something, and just at the moment we are on the cusp of success, we fuck it all up and quit. Absolute masters at this we are.

Success brings its own terrors for many of us. If we do it once, we might be expected to do it again and then all the time. Oh hell no!

A muscle of any kind is only built by consistent, continual work. It may be developed more quickly by an intense focus on the work, but it must be maintained on a consistent basis to remain. When there is a muscle that has been developed and let go, it is in far worse condition than one that never got developed.

Recovery is a series of steps that help us to develop the muscles of spirit, of emotional maturity, and of responsibility. Growing up is a bitch! And most of us are so immature that the work is deep and takes real discipline.

Tiny steps are necessary…daily…Step 10 is all about that. If you only do it once a month, it is too overwhelming, and we get too far away from the place where spirit lives. Then we have to work like crazy to get back into that muscle shape. Better to just maintain what we have obtained. Always. Anything that is worth achieving is worth keeping. That is the key and the secret to being a grown up. I don’t always want to be a grown up, but the life I get to live is amazing and wonderful, every day. And when I believe it isn’t, it is up to me to change my attitude. That is always good work!

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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