September 23

FREEDOM MONTH: DAY 23: “A man is as free as he chooses to make himself, never an atom freer.”― George MacDonald

I get to hear a lot of people tell me why they are not able to be free…from lives they have chosen to live, whether it is in a job, a marriage, a relationship of any kind, or any situation about which they are happy. They are victims of their own making. I was like that once. I was completely convinced that if I left THAT job I would starve to death.

And I knew I would never work again, blah, blah, blah. I felt frozen and unable to do anything in my own life! I know SO many people in that situation. They whine and complain about their circumstances,  yet deny they chose them or anything they could do to change it. Victims…ugh!

I remember well when I believed this…all of it. And am SO grateful that when I think that way in a situation I am not happy with, I laugh (eventually!) and remember how free I truly am to change whatever I don’t like…OR I can change what I believe about it.

The cages I have built around my freedom are totally mine. And there is a beautiful process in these steps that always gives me the freedom to shift my perspective of any and every condition in that life. I can tell, when I feel whiney and complain about something that I need to take another look. And, if I write about it enough, my hope is that I will remember it first before that process needs to be done. I would love to never complain about anything again. Not there yet, maybe tomorrow.

Today I am still practicing this process. So much better than I was, yet I have to remember that the mindset is (sadly) a default setting for me. It does not get erased by this work, but it does kick in way faster than it used to. Progress can be slow, but the work must go on…

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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