September 17

FREEDOM MONTH: DAY 17: “Let us not seek to satisfy our thirst for freedom by drinking from the cup of bitterness and hatred.”― Martin Luther King Jr.

Since my childhood, there has been fighting about equal rights. It went on long before that and, I suppose, will go on long after I am gone. It has been a background (sometimes foreground!) theme in my life.

Remaining detached from this is necessary for all of us. Doing what is right is a personal responsibility, and we all share in that. If we truly wish to remain free in our own lives, we must allow that same privilege in others’.

I sometimes feel angry at those who persecute or harm others. I quite often feel this more when I see rampant damage done to Nature in any form. I must learn to walk through this world and monitor my own behaviors. For me to approach others with an attitude of superiority because I understand these things a certain way is no good for me or anyone I may encounter.

NO ONE is going to be swayed by my stand on any of these things.

I have been teaching others about recovery for so many years, and yet, few of those I have ever worked with are touched by my dedication to these principles. They may hear me, but their experience is going to be their own. They are here to walk the path they are here to walk. None of my business.

The same goes with all of those who do things I find abhorrent or ignorant. I cannot teach them except by my own behavior. I have learned this with family and friends. It is only my part to work toward understanding who they are and accepting them at that level. I am not superior or inferior to them. I just sit in a different chair and have a differing view.

This is the only way I can be free of the battles of Ego when I want to SHOW people what to do or TELL them how to be. It is of absolutely no worth. And I will end up angry, bitter, and frustrated. That is how I got here. It was no good then and it is no good today. I am free, but I must remember how it happened. I had to let go of that desire to control others and how they behave. In every single way. Okay!

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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