September 12

FREEDOM MONTH: DAY 12: “The moment that judgement stops through acceptance of what it is, you are free of the mind. You have made room for love, for joy, for peace.” ― Eckhart Tolle

What wonderful freedom we get is when we stop judging ourselves, other people, and life itself. I am always in amazement of how so many of us accept the crazy ideas that come into our minds and live our lives as if this crap (straight from Ego!) were true!

Most people don’t even question all the stuff they make up. Insane, isn’t it? And we believe it and live into it and then judge others who don’t know these “rules” of life. I have witnessed this in my own mind and find it absolutely incredible that Ego still tells me these stories and expects me to either love or hate others, based on how it deems they should have behaved.

Sometimes there is truly a bad behavior on the part of another. They truly did not act well, but that is not any of my business. We can get caught up in their acts and carry resentment and rage with us for as long as we like, but we will never be free until we let it all go and learn to accept them as they are. I know there are some things that I will never forget, but I sure as hell can accept. It is the only peace and freedom I will ever have.

The catch is this: Ego will keep reminding you of this. I have lived with that for a long time, an entire life. I can do these steps, accept the person, and then there occurs another episode of something that needs to be healed again. To believe that things that happened that were possibly traumatic in our early life are healed the first time we do this work would be ridiculous, in my experience.

However, there is always more to heal. And I have been able to reach true peace in this instance for longer and longer periods of time, without having to play in Ego’s terrible sandbox. And I get to be free of the attitudes and behaviors that I acted out in the old ideas from the very first inventory and 9th step I performed in this matter.

As the BB says, more will be revealed. The deepest truth for me is that I do not always understand what is wrong or right; good, or bad. When I release these labels and just accept that these things happened, perhaps even for my own benefit, I am free again!

I do believe the peace becomes more intense, the healing more profound, with each application of the medicine I find in these steps. For that, I cannot begin to express my gratitude enough.

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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