August 10

COURAGE MONTH: DAY 10: “It takes a lot of courage to release the familiar and seemingly secure, to embrace the new. But there is no real security in what is no longer meaningful.”― Alan Cohen

We have all had to move on to new relationships, new homes, new ideas, new clothes, new cars, and many other things. It is all part of life. Most of us have had to move on to learning about new foods, meeting new people, getting new jobs, learning new skills, and doing new things.

How interesting when so many people do not move on well. Why is that? Why are so many not able to let go of “how it used to be” to embrace “what it is like now”?

This isn’t going to help us move into a new paradigm, but some are just too frightened to let go of even painful past realities for those that are here and now.

When we live fully in THIS moment, we are letting go of the moment before. If we consistently learn how to do that, we are going to be fully fluid with the flow of life. It is an essential tool to learning to navigate the world around you well and peacefully.

This means we have to become acquainted with a great deal of growth, a great deal of change, expansion of our world view, and so many other aspects of life…over and over and over and over again. Resisting those realities does not change them, it is just another way for Ego to kick your ass. And there is no real security in anything, anyway.

If Step 8 is all about becoming honest with the list of people we have harmed, that means letting go of ALL the old stories, old ideas, and old paradigms where we are victims of life, rather than the perpetrators of the villainous acts we have committed. We have to let go of all of it in order to move out of Ego and into Spirit. Willing or not, life is going to drag you into your todays and require that you move on. The pain is NEVER from letting go. The pain is ALWAYS in the resistance and hanging on. And it will kick your ass…that is all Ego ever really has to offer anyway….delusions and pain. All Ego. Welcome to a better way to do life!

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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