PATIENCE MONTH: DAY 28: “But patience, real patience, meant more than simply waiting. Patience meant you had to honor the moments before things happened the same way you honored the moments when they did.”― Lisa Grunwald
We all have life-changing moments. Those times when we remember events as either before or after that time.
This can be a birth, a death, a wedding, an illness, an injury, education, so many things. They mark our lives in significant ways. One of the biggest of these markers, for me, was coming into recovery. I can honestly say that I remember most of the big events of my life in terms of how many years of recovery I had when they occurred. It also colors the emotional and spiritual health of my responses to those times.
It is an interesting way of living. I did not know the impact recovery would have on me. That the day I wanted most to die was a major turning point in 1000 ways for me. That it would be the color and flavor of the rest of my life. I just believed it was a sucky day.
So, it is important not to throw away these moments, hours, days, and weeks while we are waiting for the wedding, the degrees, the outcome of something, the beginning or ending of a relationship. That we be present for all the moments, hours, days, etc. as they occur so we can recognize the incremental steps that lead to the event itself.
Many of us can relate when others say they do not know how they got from point A to point B. They just “woke up” one day to find that they had accomplished something, been that much older, gotten fat, been a specific way, or whatever. They were unconscious through the time in-between. That sucks, they have missed a large portion of their lives, believing that point A and point B were the only parts that mattered. Sad.
And yet, our lack of mindfulness to what is going on around us is the real reason we are unaware of all the addiction we live with, the terrible gaps in our relationships with others, and waking up one day and realizing we have been sleep-walking through our lives and missed the whole damn thing!