July 2

PATIENCE MONTH: DAY 2: “I’ve learned that patience is something you don’t “have”; you must create it yourself. It isn’t a commodity doled out to all infants in varying amounts at birth. You learn (and earn) patience by making time for it, calming yourself down, relaxing, and letting it happen. The more you practice patience, the more you have. And the more you have, the easier it is to summon when you need it most.”― Lisa Boyer

None of us is patient by design. It is an acquired ability to sit still and allow time and life to unfold as it will. And we all have seen how unsavory those are who are impatient in a group setting. They get rude and demanding and self-important…all Ego.

Ego needs its demands fulfilled NOW and nothing will appease it. There is always a story that gets created about how important, busy, blah, blah, blah that person is. I know I have been this person and hate how it feels when I recognize my asshole tendencies.

It happens when I am driving, even when I am not in a hurry to be anywhere. I like to drive faster than I should, according to the law. But I love to drive fast. I do a lot of things too fast. That is all Ego as well. I love when I get to be mindful of myself in these situations. I can slow down and allow life to take place at its own pace.

Practicing patience when I am waiting is what I get a lot of opportunity to do. Many of us are practicing patience with the way life is unfolding in the world around us today. I find that I sometimes struggle with boredom because I run out of projects in my day, or Ego tells me I am meant for bigger and better things. Uh-oh! So this is a great time to practice just breathing in and out and sitting still and allowing the things to happen that are going on around me. I don’t have to DO anything. I just have to BE. And I find new ways to be of service in the world around me right now. It is awesome!

There is a nice area park where the weeds have gotten quite out of hand. I walk over there 2 days a week and pull the weeds. Because I can. Because I see them. And I like it better when the weeds are gone. It is completely free for me…and that is a small bit of service I get to do today. I love that!

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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