December 1

LOVE MONTH: DAY 1: “The only calibration that counts is how much heart people invest, how much they ignore their fears of being hurt or caught out or humiliated. And the only thing people regret is that they didn’t live boldly enough, that they didn’t invest enough heart, didn’t love enough. Nothing else really counts at all.”― Ted Hughes

All regrets, as I see it, should be about those things we should NOT have done, but did. Hahaha! I have NO regrets about missed opportunities or things I left unsaid or undone. I have jumped into the deep end every single time!

We always know when we could have been kinder, more loving, more in touch with someone who mattered to us. We KNOW. And we KNOW we can do more. Always. There is seldom a regret about having done less with people whose company we enjoy. There is seldom a regret about how much we OVER loved someone who mattered.

What if we don’t love them? Well, perhaps the greatest gift is just to show up for the opportunity to give love and not worry about what comes back. I think of the great love that some of my heroes have given into this world. Mother Theresa, Thich Nhat Hahn, The Dalai Lama, so many others!

I want to have given every single ounce of love that exists in the world. Not just in me, but to have spread it far and wide to every tree, animal, flower, beach, mountain, and person I encounter; no matter what I think of them or how they appear to me. No matter what I believe about the situation we may be in at that moment. No matter what!

I have never run out of love. I have many stories I have made up in this life about others. But I always want to continue to walk into every situation with an open heart, because I have received SO MUCH without ever having deserved it. SO MUCH! Grace, love, kindness, healing, yikes! SO MUCH!

I want to serve and serve and serve, out of the love I get each and every day from a Universe I used to want out of more than anything. I don’t feel that way any longer. On my worst, very, very worst day, I got to come home to you guys and this amazing way of life. And I want to ALWAYS extend myself in love to the world around me, never knowing how that happens or what that may mean, or how it may work out. Just love…that is all there is or ever can be!

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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