October 20

DISCIPLINE MONTH: DAY 20: “The most powerful control we can ever attain, is to be in control of ourselves.”― Chris Page

So many addicts have terrible issues with control. We are not able to allow life to unfold comfortably. We want to control life, other people, every situation…ad nauseum. The reason for this is our inability to live outside of Ego. There is no control necessary when we live without fear. Period.

This is a basic tenet of addiction. Our inability to let go of the ILLUSION of control. Because we live ALL the TIME in Ego! Ugh! So, recovery means that we begin to learn about letting go of our demanding, clinging, whining issues of control and let the Universal Power have all of it.

Then we begin to live in less Ego, less Fear, less Addiction, less Control. If our discipline is to continuously learn and practice spiritual principles, this will be the outcome.

If we are not allowing ourselves to continue to develop along spiritual lines, we will be fearful and in need of control in situations where we have none.

Remember Step 1? Powerlessness. I have learned that I am Powerless…period. Over everything. I can choose so little in life that it is free and easy for me these days. I have so few choices, so few decisions. I do Step 3 and let it all flow from there. THAT is my discipline.

I let the Universe do what it will. My only concern is to align myself with what comes and deal with what I may believe that is causing me discomfort, fear, pain, etc. THAT is how you continuously practice spiritual principles.

Not by sitting around stewing and worrying about what happened in the past, what may happen tomorrow or next week. By just doing this day and letting it all unfold as it will. I find that my moments are easy to live, every day. I may agree to do something in the future, but I know it, too, will unfold ON THAT DAY. So I let go of the control and fear and demands, all of it.

That is the only form of control I need to have over myself and my life. There is nothing I need to worry or fret or stew about. I can, if I want to get all balled up in my Ego, but I really hate how that feels. AND, there is NOTHING I will ever gain from that. NOTHING! So why would I spend my life creating heart disease, ulcers, chronic stress and headaches when there is NOTHING served by that? I don’t. And I continue to be happy, joyous and free. I also have 10 times more available day left for just BEING, and that means I get more life out of every day than the worriers and the complainers and the whiners and the stressed-out people. It is far easier just to live.

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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