September 20

FREEDOM MONTH: DAY 20: “Freedom is the will to be responsible for ourselves.” ― Friedrich Nietzsche

As usual, this man had wisdom around the idea of freedom that completely resonates with me. I do not understand a great deal about the world, but I do see how many people in my circle (teachers!) are caught in places I may have believed in at one time. They are trapped by what they are willing to live with (or so they thought) in order to have some form of security or safety in the world. They do not know that THIS thinking is the problem and why they are so deeply unhappy with their lives. It is really surprising when I see how prevalent this condition is.

We are all attached to things, ideas, people. Each attachment teaches us what we are here to learn. If we are able to break the attachment, we are free. When we are not, it remains, and the pain becomes deadly.

I watch them with health issues that are crippling them, yet they cling. And blame these health issues on conditions that do not need to exist. Illness is always a great teacher. I have learned more than I can say about this with the health challenges I have faced. They teach me and I (hopefully) learn the lesson and let go.

So far, these first 65 years. Let’s see what happens next. I take full responsibility for my health and my state of happiness. They are gifts I continue to give to myself and the Universe, in my gratitude for the lessons I have learned.

But, the key is to LEARN the lessons and see where we can let go of the attachments we have to being victims of life. We are all blessed with many opportunities to learn. Most of us don’t. We depend on others to take care of us and fix us and medicine to make it better. Very few will look deeply enough to find the causes and work on THAT instead of the problems. Same thing applies to our mental states. We are given what we need to work through to achieve great satisfaction and a deep and abiding love for life and the Universal Power who gives it to us each day. Most people are just marking time. They do very little service to anyone or anything.

They accumulate more attachments and live in such fear of losing them that they are frozen and cannot move, either spiritually or physically. Emotionally, they are mostly full of self-pity and stories of victimhood and resignation, which is truly resentment, no matter how much accumulation they have amassed.

The stories are similar. But they remain frozen in that space. I want true and absolute freedom. I have some great mentors in this. I will always love Louise Hay for her teachings on the physical realm of things. Her life was an amazing testimony to beliefs and freedom. Spiritually and mentally, there are many others. Most of them are Buddhist and Hindi teachers. Their message is the same, and I am so grateful that I have learned to listen, even when it pisses me off at first. I take FULL responsibility for my life and healing and absolute freedom!

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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