September 14

FREEDOM MONTH: DAY 14: “It is only when you take responsibility for your life that you discover how powerful you truly are” ― Allanah Hunt

Growing up is the process of becoming independent with oneself and responsible for everything that happens in my life. Either in how I view life, or in how I view the events of my life.

Being a victim is dysfunctional and codependent. Codependent because it puts me at the mercy of events and life in ways that I believe I have no inherent choices.

We ALWAYS have choices, even in being powerless. When I choose to give the Universal Power my life, I am saying that EVERYTHING that comes from there is up to me to either benefit from or to throw away, saying it isn’t what I want. Ego says that all of the time, because it cannot tolerate the idea that life is perfect and beautiful in every way, all the time.

We don’t accept a great deal of life because it does not always match up with what Ego dictates is the way it should be. I have not yet met the person who truly has greater inspiration than Universal Power, but SO many who think they do.

When we own our choices and our attitudes and our behaviors, which are governed by the first two, we get to grow the hell up.

People always want to point out to me all the reasons why they cannot be happy at this time. And what I know is they are not going to be happy at ANY time, because they always have a story, driven by Ego, that tells them life is just not what they think it should be. Too bad, because I remain happy, no matter what story they try to give me about how that cannot happen for them. Life is a bitch, and then you change your attitude. (A new button I got at about 2 years sober and still have…it says it all for me.)

I am powerless, then I make a decision about how life is going to be, and I am now powerful. And I take all responsibility for my shitty attitude and turning it into a grateful one. It is that damned simple. And I can tell you 5000 reasons why you can dispute this. I don’t care about any of them. I am blessed and I am happy, no matter what.

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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