August 22

COURAGE MONTH: DAY 22: “It takes as much courage to have tried and failed as it does to have tried and succeeded.” ― Anne Morrow Lindbergh

Although I do not believe in failure as a concept, I do agree with this. Every time I step into a new spot in my life, I am acting with courage, whether or not I like the new spot.

Most change is uncomfortable, so I probably dislike or am afraid of most of it. But that does not mean I am going to stand or sit still. I have learned better since coming around here.

I embrace change, not for the sake of change, but because it is the way the Universe goes. I don’t work to initiate change, which is where most people get messed up. But I do allow it to happen through me  and in me and around me. I work to not fight against the change that is taking place.

But I do also know that sometimes we need to look at change that is being demanded of us by others and decide if that works for us or not. I just know I get to decide those things.

I accept all change, but I don’t always participate. It depends on the situations and where the change is coming from and what the change indicates in my life.

And even this requires the courage to make self-determined choices for myself. I will walk away from those things that do not feed my spirit, but I can accept those things that will require me to stretch and grow outside my wheel house. It all depends.

When it comes to keeping the peace in a relationship, I think both parties need to determine how and when change is going to take place. Sometimes the choices are not ours. Step 8 is all about finding out what we can do to change those things that we believe about life and the relationship with someone so we can keep it authentic and on a spiritual level. I love this work! It is so powerful and dynamic.

And I never, ever forget that the most important amends I will ever make are to the relationship between myself and the Universal Power. That is the one I keep at the top of my list at all times. I want to always know that when THAT relationship is right, the rest will be too.

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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