July 1

PATIENCE MONTH: DAY 1: “When the sea is calm everything sails perfectly.

Calm your mind and everything is going to be alright” ― Ojingiri Hannah

When I am able to be mindful and peaceful in a situation, I am guaranteed to have an easier time than when I get upset, nervous or allow fear to run the show.

The idea that “everything is going to be alright” has taken some time for me to embrace fully. A part of me always wanted to believe this, but had so many stories around things that I could not let go of them. As we begin to mature emotionally, we get to the place where we know this intuitively.

I love The Promises in AA. They have always given me a road map of the destination. Being peaceful always sounded kind of boring to me. Today it is the norm and comfortable place I most want to be. I love being at peace with life. Took a long time. And I have reached that place. I love it here.

When I do get disturbed, I have to look at my beliefs and feelings around that situation. It is ALWAYS going to be me and my perception of what is going on.

Step 7 requires me to be humble in the face of the changes I am asking the Universal Power to make on my behalf. I cannot do this, or it would no longer be a problem. So, I must be patient with this process. I am not always able to let go of the beliefs around an unsuitable character trait. That is my part. The more pain I create for myself with these old ideas, the more I can ask for the help of that Power. I need help; lots of help. And over these years, I have been given that help.

Not with all of the problems, but with the biggest ones. I continue to work through these steps to gain more and more peace in my life.

Patience itself is a challenge for most of us. This is where our immaturity really shows. We don’t want to wait for anything and act quite often like 3 year olds, throwing temper tantrums when gratification of our desires does not come NOW. Ugh! This is so ugly to witness and so ugly to be caught in.

I love Step 7. It gives me so much relief from being an asshat.

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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