February 5

HOPE MONTH: DAY 5: “There is a saying in Tibetan, ‘Tragedy should be utilized as a source of strength.’

No matter what sort of difficulties, how painful experience is, if we lose our hope, that’s our real disaster.” ― Dalai Lama XIV

Many recovering people have seemingly tragic stories. Why “seemingly?” Because there is always a purpose for human suffering. It is to inform us somehow.

Every spiritual tradition recognizes this and downplays the martyrs, those who are filled with self-pity and “story” about their suffering.

They all recognize the purpose of the human condition to strengthen and vitalize those hurdles we all are here to withstand and overcome. I have always known this. I see the way we honor those who achieve great things, despite their hurdles. It is the story of all of us.

We want to be heroes, to come back and thrive, no matter what kind of things are thrown into the middle of our lives. We are all born with an incredible sense of hope and promise and inherently see this in each other and ourselves.

Just as we all have a sense of something greater than us that allows us to believe that we are not alone in this world, we all have an inherent sense of purpose higher than where we are today.

Some of these intrinsic human qualities have been either obliterated or seriously warped by the culture we live in and the egoic nature of the lives we live for so many of our years. However, being born into these conditions, I believe; is just the purpose we are here to show each other. That we can and do triumph over those stories of woe we have lived or may encounter along the way.

There are no “victims” in this thing. If we have had situations in our lives where we have become the victims of anything, it is most often our own beliefs in what it “should” be like that are to blame. We need to always look at our beliefs and ideas about life to see where the problem is. It is not in the life situations we are encountering, but our resistance to them that creates pain. My beliefs that it should have been different in my family, in my relationships, in anything have caused a lot of pain until I came to recognize that when I changed my perspective, my perception changed, and then my beliefs came into alignment with the statement made by Dr. Paul O. that “nothing, absolutely nothing, happens in God’s world by mistake.”

Like my little stories are of such huge impact in the world. It is only my entirely self-centered view of the world that must always be the problem. So far, this is always true. Always. I love that! There is so much hope in knowing that we are all on this path and can remind each other when we are full of self and suffering because of that.

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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