January 27

ACCEPTANCE MONTH: DAY 27: “Maturity, one discovers, has everything to do with the acceptance of ‘not knowing.” ― Mark Z. Danielewski

We never get to know. However, many people are always trying to control life, so they second and third guess situations and cover for all possible outcomes, attempting to achieve desired results and avoid consequences.

I believe maturity is the acceptance of everything, not just ‘not knowing.” But it is very challenging for a lot of addicts to live in the present and ‘not knowing.’

Addiction robs us of maturity. The more we are able to live in spiritual principles, the more mature we become. We stop stomping our feet and being angry or sad because life isn’t what we think it should be. I have a couple of heroes (and heroines!) who are courageous in their adaptation to life’s vagaries.

They have come to terms with what is going on and made peace with situations that are difficult, at best. Then there are those who are angry and sad because they are not getting what they want. None of us is, but there is a strong sense of entitlement that runs through the heart of this disease.

We get put upon and put out because we are aging, not as rich as we think we should be, have health or physical challenges, do not work the way we think we should, ad nauseum.

We are immature. Most of us are truly living on time that should never have been given to us, but we forget that. And we are not reaping the direct karmic benefits of the horrible lives we once embraced, where we stole and cheated and lied.

We receive so much grace and refuse to acknowledge that even our downturns are greatly beneficial for our own learning process. I love that!

So, acceptance is a multi-layered and many-faceted diamond. It is a tremendous gift to us, when we remember to open it and use it. If not, we are going to remain immature and demanding infants in 50, 60, and 70-year old bodies. A very unattractive way to be. And shows no sign of recovery or the blessings of the steps we have available at any moment we choose to receive this grace. Today, I am going to open and love my life and the grace that I am given to have another day. See ya!

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Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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