January 20

ACCEPTANCE MONTH: DAY 20: The best way is not to fight it, just go. Don’t be trying all the time to fix things. What you run from only stays with you longer. When you fight something, you only make it stronger.” ― Chuck Palahniuk

Oh yeah…we must soften and yield…soften and yield. Life will kick the shit outta me when I am fighting it. And what do I win? Nothing…absolutely nothing.

Just proving to myself and the world around me that I am a stubborn, willful brat who wants her way in all things. But that does not happen. In fact, the more I soften and yield, the more I receive. These are supplicating stances, I can only open as I soften and yield.

I receive way more…way more. Love and grace and peace and contentment.

The fighting is not going to give me anything, except bruised knuckles and a head ache. Anger and pain and rage that I am fighting with all my might and losing, nonetheless.

I hate that. Then, I fall down in exhaustion and receive what I should have started out with…softening and yielding. I give up…okay! Good! Now we can get on with it.

I have nothing to fix. It ain’t broken. It just ain’t the way I think it is supposed to be. Not my plan…never my plan. When will I ever learn it cannot be my way…should not be my way…extremely improved upon because it isn’t my way. Okay.

I don’t know about making something stronger because I fight it. I am not sure that is true. It probably just seems that way. I know this is true with people. I just accept that they are who they are today. But, this life thing is bigger than that.

I am not here to fix others. So glad to get that lesson. I am not here to make others happy or to please them in any way. So glad to know that one too. BUT, I still think I am here to have life go a certain way. I want that man, that house, that whatever-it-is; but it isn’t my journey for that to happen. Back way off and soften and yield…okay. And then someone or something even better comes…oh boy!

Happens every time when I let go and soften and yield.

I cede my will unto this Universe and it gives me the best possible of all good things. How cool is that? I thought it should be this, but THAT is so much more appropriate and cool! YAY! Still learning, but better all the time.

And all the evidence points in the same direction…I get to be God’s favorite kid…all the time, every day. All I have to do is soften and yield and accept and say thanks…woohoo!

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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