December 3

LOVE MONTH: DAY 3: “The only calibration that counts is how much heart people invest, how much they ignore their fears of being hurt or caught out or humiliated. And the only thing people regret is that they didn’t live boldly enough, that they didn’t invest enough heart, didn’t love enough. Nothing else really counts at all.” ― Ted Hughes

We are so enmeshed in fear when we get to this recovery thing…so caught up in the web of dishonesty and story that we cannot imagine a world where we can live in honor, integrity, love and peace.

There have been countless times in this journey when I have been able to jump off seeming cliffs of danger and risk all of me to the moment I was presented with choices to sit on the sidelines and not risk myself, OR to just jump into the life that was opening up and maybe get hurt or look foolish.

Like THAT should stop me, when I got here looking VERY foolish and beat to shit. But, we somehow have the idea that life is supposed to be SAFE, whatever that is.

I have taken big and small risks almost every day since then. What if the job doesn’t work…take it anyway. What if I move there and hate it? Go anyway and find out. In every single instance, I have learned a great deal. And only a handful of people who really did not get it anyway have ever judged any of it. What do I care?

I had the experiences, the loves, the homes, the jobs, and all the time that went into each and its lessons. There are NO mistakes in this world. I cannot possibly make a mistake. All I can do is learn and move forward. I love that!! Really, really love it.

That makes it easier the next time I am given an opportunity to just go and DO IT, whatever IT is! And I do, over and over again. I have not one single regret, it is all about learning and loving and experiencing life on every level.

It makes me sad to see those who hide out in their rooms, afraid to jump into this thing called life. They live on TV or their phones and seldom risk anything or do anything. What a waste!

We really need to just go out in the world and find the next thing and DO it. And keep finding the next thing and doing that…it is a wonderful world that most people are completely missing out on. I agree with Mr. Hughes, there is nothing of value for me in watching the world and life go by. We are ALL here to live out loud!

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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