October 30

DISCIPLINE MONTH: DAY 30: “The average person will take the excuses, but the leader will always take responsibilities” ― Manuel Corazzari

We appreciate the leaders who own their decisions, even if they made them based on advice that may not have been correct or well thought out.

One of the scary things about our current leader is his inability to own his stuff. I have so many lovely things to see and say about him, but that is not a quality he seems to possess.

I think that we are led best by those we respect and admire. I don’t find those things in this man, but I don’t want to go into a political writing today. I just saw this parallel when I began writing and wanted to mention it.

The Universe is going to use all of us. We are here to live out a path. How that looks and how we walk it are up to us to decide.

I want to be a good example (funny, I typed god example three times before I got it to come out as good!) of this recovery deal. I know that a lot of newer people do not get what I talk about. I can talk to them on a different level, because I have done that kind of work for many, many years.

But sharing the journey of 12-step recovery with others is part of the deal. We get to share and give our personal spin on how it works. Most of the time, we get very caught up in our personal stuff and believe the story is about us.

It isn’t, but I think the beauty of it is that there was a lot of space left for the gigantic egos we carry around by those early founders. God knows they had their egos as well. We don’t have to stay stuck in sharing, over and over again, the drama and story of our drinking history, or our childhood woes, or any of the woes of the tie before recovery. It really isn’t pertinent.

I think the story we share is how the recovery stuff works each and every day. How do we feel about life NOW versus how we felt about life THEN. It does say, by the way…”We shared in a general way…” Most of the time, that is thrown out the window  by people who speak in meetings.

I don’t want to hear the day-to-day drama details. I really don’t.

I go to fewer meetings today than I once did. I like to go to meetings that are solution-focused and into the steps and the transformation we get in them. This is a great way for me to be a part of the fellowship. I also find that I gravitate most often to those who are being of service. It is what I believe in and want to always do. I don’t make or take excuses today. That is a great shift for me. I always start out with a story of some kind, I just don’t get to stay there any more.

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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