September 11

FREEDOM MONTH: DAY 11: “The moment that judgement stops through acceptance of what it is, you are free of the mind. You have made room for love, for joy, for peace.” ― Eckhart Tolle

Ego is the thing that needs a story to explain life to us. There is no real story, except the ones we make up. We believe we know what is right and wrong, good and bad, and never learn to let go of that story. What is good or bad, right or wrong to US, is often something completely benign to the Universe and others.

We see everything from a totally self-centered point of view. When we learn to sit up on a cloud and view the entirety of the picture, we can change our judgment of what is happening. We can see with a new set of eyes and a new perspective.

This is the process of recovery. To stop micro-focusing on US and open our eyes, hearts and minds to a larger viewpoint of life. Period. Nothing more, nothing less. When we learn to do this, we can suspend that self-centered vision of life being all about US and see that life is only about life.

Hurricanes, shootings, explosions, broken pipes, flat tires, job or no job, relationships, all of it. It is NOT about us at all. It is about life. And we get to participate in whatever fashion we decide. If we can learn to observe without attachment to what is going on, we can see all sides of everything.

This is what Buddhists strive for… a detached and neutral state of suspended attachment to life. It ain’t about YOU Cupcake!

That leaves us free from judgment and stories about our lives. We are here to learn this and only this. Let the Ego create all the stories it wants and learn to laugh at the whole f-ng thing! Just laugh, see the beauty and let go of the drama.

Then, and only then, we get to walk away from the dance of conflict, of power shifts, of believing that others are doing things TO us instead of FOR us. Life is an adventure, a giant cake that is decorated for all of us to enjoy…quit fighting for the biggest slice…it might bite you back…Hahahaha!

Published by: Kelly

I am a therapist and counselor with long-term recovery from addictions and personal trauma. My writing reflects these experiences and the road I have traveled in 12-Step recovery settings, along with the work I have done for over 30 years in the field. My love of dolphins includes the stories of them being healers in places all over the world. I long to offer every broken spirit and body the experience of a healing hug. May my words and stories inform, uplift and delight your spirit and soothe your weary heart.

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